sex and marriage

topic of the week is: having sex before marriage :)
i honestly never thought that we đuiếc would ever really talk about this. excluding Thao obviously cus yes she and i have had several conversations about this topic. but its actually pretty interesting to hear different opinions from these precious people in my life. we once talked about this during one of our tue community nite. yes having sex is an important part of marriage because believe it or not, it does matter if ur partner does it well or not-well. so one argument was that yes u can try to decide whether or not to marry ur significant other because if ur not satisfied physically then no one can guarantee ur marriage will last. BUT, if u never try having sex before u get married, then u dont have a standard (since ur significant other will be the only person u ll ever sleep with). therefore, u dont know if the sex is good/bad and u ll be satisfied w what u have cus u dont have any other experience to compare it with. they both make sense. what matters is that WHAT DO YOU THINK ABOUT IT? Mau said no. Thao said yes (i remember so...). Thao said Hien and Mau said yes when they talked about it in vn (wth...). and im not sure if bom has ever thought about it (shes such an innocent and sweet girl <3). but if u do think its fine then theres something to consider: u have to make sure that the other person can be responsible for whatever may happen to u two. of course we r gonna use protection (sorry to be so blunt about this haha) but still. u know that disgusting feeling when u kiss someone and one day u realize hes an ass and u just wanna unkiss him? imagine that happens but this time its so much more than a kiss. if u just do it for the experience or to show that ur cool enough to sleep with someone then sorry ur nothing but a SLUT. hmm i believe i know at least one. not in that sense but yeah.

for me? im fine with it. because 1) i dont think im gonna date any guys (not  very surprising is it?) and 2) i still dont think im gonna date any guys :). i mean if i have a date AND if we get serious enough AND if the situation is right, i ll move out to live w that person. but thats a lot of ANDs and we will see what God brings me : )

peace out !

... its true. work out always gets me hyper. forgot to mention Huy was having a party at his aunts today so i went to gym by myself, ran (or walked fast idk) on the ... (i forgot what its called...) for an hour without stopping and i burned 600 cals!!! i usually run half an hour in the afternoon and half and hour at night and do some other stuff too so this was the first time i ran for the whole hour. felt good. now too hyper to sleep ;(

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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fz_IDBP__Qk&feature=related
nge bài này nge dc 2 câu:
bao năm trôi qua anh vẫn yêu em
dù chuyện tình mình giờ đây xa lắm

Stop judging others, and you will not be judged. Stop criticizing others, or it will all come back on you. If you forgive others, you will be forgiven. If you give, you will receive. Your gift will return to you in full measure, pressed down, shaken together to make room for more, and running over. Whatever measure you use in giving - large and small - it will be used to measure what is given back to you.

Luke 6:37-38

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this is random but i truly sincerely always wondered how people sometimes just can't break up on good terms... now i see why o.o

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we dont talk a lot these days and when we do, she really knows how to make me really frustrated, and kinda pissed too. and for some reason i feel like she does it on purpose. seriously. no kidding. ughhh. this girl!

và rồi chúng ta ko còn trẻ nữa

tao đã bđầu gọi con nít = con 1 cách tự nhiên thay vì mỗi khi bị tụi nó xưng con muốn chạy lại nhéo má mấy cái (tính nói muốn tán vô mặt mà vậy hình ảnh phúc hậu của tao sẽ bị biến mất :)). cuộc đời mỗi ngày ko còn nhàm chán nhưng làm cho tao tự hỏi có khi nào mỗi ngày như mọi ngày sẽ tốt hơn? vậy thì ko fải lo nghĩ gì ngày nào như ngày nấy. cũng khỏi phải lo cảm xúc lúc này lúc kia phát mệt. mà đều vậy còn gì là vui?

chúng ta đã bao lâu ko gặp? 2 tháng đối v đuiếc ở vn và ko-nhớ-bao-lâu-nữa v cô gái missouri thương mến của tao. nhớ ngày nào chiếc xe đạp màu tím dc bnhiêu đứa mượn đi của tao và những ngày đi học cười như mấy bà điên. lúc mà đi giày giả converse đi học vẫn là thời thượng và bánh tráng trộn lần đầu xuất hiện. Yến và Hiền lần nào cũng ăn 2 ổ bánh mì (nếu có tiền) trước khi học thầy Đoàn và nếu có những buổi trưa Yến ko ngủ ở trường có nghĩa là Yến bị đao bụng về nhà đi ị :(. 

tháng ngày dài đi mãi ko hết để tới lúc nhìn lại thấy tuổi trẻ của mình thật trẻ và non nớt biết bnhiêu.

if i say i miss you, will you say you miss me too?


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if its not like the movies
thats how it should be


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Hold On Till The Night


that song just reminds me of a lot of memories. not necessarily good ones :). i listened to it almost the whole time when i was on the airplane flying back here. and that flight was possibly the worst experience ive ever had. i was so so not ready to go back here by myself. and i read a post on tumblr today that says if we wait until we are ready, we will be waiting for the rest of our lives. true i guess? but something wasnt settled completely. family time wasnt spent enough. idk. even now when i think of vn, a lot of places still remind me of a lot of things. good ones. bad ones. good ones that became bad ones. life is good here. i used to miss home and want to go home so bad when life is not going the way i want. now? i learn how to deal w it and i move on. its not that life is not going smooth rite now. it is. but if home is not what i think of when i dont like it here, then where will i end up in the future when im done w school? 


man. life is hard.

I froze. I liked it at the moment but I kinda hated it afterwards. I am scared.

As I always tell people and myself also, you need to at least try before giving up on something. Because there is still a little tiny chance that you may succeed. I don't want to one day look back and wonder for the rest of my life would it have been any different if I had tried? If it's not meant to be then there is always something better waiting for you. I am young. I want to be optimistic. And I believe in Him.

I froze today. I did.

My heart skipped a beat.

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chái tim có nắng

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Dan In Real Life always makes me feel good regardless of what kind of mood I am in.

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tháng ngày dài mệt nhoài

And so I tell you, keep on asking, and you will be given what you ask for. Keep on looking, and you will find. Keep on knocking, and the door will be opened. For everyone who asks, receives. Everyone who seeks, finds. And the door is opened to everyone who knocks.

Luke 11:9-10

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Listen to me! You can pray for anything, and if you believe, you will have it. But when you are praying, first forgive anyone you are holding a grudge against, so that your Father in heaven will forgive your sins, too.

Mark 11: 23a-25